Episode 110: Resilience & its Four Building Blocks

In Episode 10 Stephen and I discuss Resilience - what it is, what it isnt and importantly how you can develop and maintain your own.

Some quotes and clips include:

 

• Resilience is the character to see things through – “I will be able to deal with whatever comes next”
• Everything doesn’t need to go well for you to be sure that you’ll carry on
• Resilience is needed to cover the first 90% of the journey – the first 9000 hours – the last 10% is the reward
• 10000 hours – Malcolm Gladwell, Seth Godin’s The Dip
• Resilience isn’t about forcing your way through – it’s about responding positively to events around you
• 4 Building blocks of resilience – their order is important

1 Self Confidence. 2 Social Support. 3 Adaptability to Change. 4 Big sense of purpose

• Resilience can be built if you know what the building blocks are
• If you cannot connect to the bigger purpose – maybe this journey isn’t something for you
• Everyone has overcome a struggle – sometimes it’s not easily recognisable to outsiders and even to them – but they have
• Remember the times you overcame obstacles you shouldn’t have – or looking back you cannot believe you did.
• You can’t build on what you didn’t do – only what you did do – remember the times you brought you’re a game to a situation to help boost your confidence
• Plant enough flowers and there’s no room for weeds
• Social Support – ask for the social support you need for your journey.  Let them know how valuable they are to you.  Recognise that you will require different things from different people at different times.  Sometimes to be challenged – other times a cheerleader
• Adaptability – keep the result as a non-negotiable and the process negotiable
• If I could guarantee you the result but the condition is that nothing will go according to plan… would you take it?
• Planes to Honolulu only point towards Honolulu 16% of the time
• Purpose: the impact that the result will make.  The “Why” is so compelling that people get less hung up on the how.
• Sometimes you need to be in a place of discomfort – purpose allows you to ask “what is the reason for this”
• No one else can give you a sense of purpose – they can give you a job, a task but not purpose.